"One's philosophy is not best expressed in words; it is expressed in the choices one makes. In the long run, we shape our lives and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility." Eleanor Roosevelt, first lady
If I asked you for your outlook on life, I am sure like most people you would have many reasons why there is so much suffering, opinions on politics and probably millions of complaints about the state of the world today regarding violence, terror, disruptive youth, child prostitution, the list goes on....
It seems that we are all experts on life when it comes to talking about it but then, what are we actually DOING about following up on those words?
Are you talking about health yet continuing to smoke, overeat and doing little to take care of your own?
Are you talking about poverty and pointing a finger at 'big businesses' for their apparent un involvement to charities yet continuing to walk straight past the homeless man you pass everyday on the street?
Are you talking but doing little more than moving your lips?
Today I want to challenge is to carry out an assessment on yourself.
Take note of how many times today you talk about doing something versus actually taking action and doing it.
I think you will be surprised at the outcome!
Do not beat yourself up over the answer, just know that one of the keys to success is matching your words with your deeds.
Showing posts with label relationship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relationship. Show all posts
Friday, 29 June 2007
Wednesday, 20 June 2007
A Simple Key To Find Happiness
People are different so there are some things that will make one person happy that would not make another happy at all! There is not one 10 second formula or one size fits all, that can make everyone happy today. I wish there was! Although, there are simple steps you can take to create happiness in your life.
Look at this quote by Benjamin Franklin: The Constitution only guarantees the American people the right to pursue happiness. You have to catch it yourself.
Before you endeavor to take the journey to becoming happy with your life, you first have to establish what happiness means to you. What do you want out of life? Would earning an extra $200 a week make you happy? Would being married make you happy? Having a family? Travelling the world? What would make you happy? If you have not yet established this, you'll be running around trying everything hoping one of these things will make you happy and it will take you along time to get anywhere.
My advice to you if you are seeking a happier life, is to take a pen and paper and write down what would make you happy. Do not think about money, time, limitations, just write. When you are done, read what you have written. Now take these things you have written and make a plan. Write a goal. Make it a 6 month goal. Do not try and do too much. Take the 3 things that you would love to do the most, and begin to plan to make them happen!
By writing it down as a goal, you have something to focus on. you are not aimlessly running around trying all different things to make you happy, but you are aiming to achieve 3 - 4 things.
Wishing you well on your pursuit of happiness.
Look at this quote by Benjamin Franklin: The Constitution only guarantees the American people the right to pursue happiness. You have to catch it yourself.
Before you endeavor to take the journey to becoming happy with your life, you first have to establish what happiness means to you. What do you want out of life? Would earning an extra $200 a week make you happy? Would being married make you happy? Having a family? Travelling the world? What would make you happy? If you have not yet established this, you'll be running around trying everything hoping one of these things will make you happy and it will take you along time to get anywhere.
My advice to you if you are seeking a happier life, is to take a pen and paper and write down what would make you happy. Do not think about money, time, limitations, just write. When you are done, read what you have written. Now take these things you have written and make a plan. Write a goal. Make it a 6 month goal. Do not try and do too much. Take the 3 things that you would love to do the most, and begin to plan to make them happen!
By writing it down as a goal, you have something to focus on. you are not aimlessly running around trying all different things to make you happy, but you are aiming to achieve 3 - 4 things.
Wishing you well on your pursuit of happiness.
Wednesday, 13 June 2007
IS IT IMPOSSIBLE OR IS IT JUST HARD?
"Do not assume it is impossible because you find it hard. Recognise that if it's humanly possible then you can do it too."
Marcus Aurelius, Roman Emperor
Very often when you find something hard to achieve, you create a series of rationalizations, justifications and explanations that whatever it is that you are attempting is impossible.
Yet, when you think about it, you are only fooling yourself. No, worse than that, you are LYING to yourself! Marcus Aurelius was correct!
If it is humanly possible, if there is another human who can do it, then it is definitely possible for you too.
So it's not impossible... it's just hard.
What are you trying to achieve that looks impossible to you? Maybe you want to create a great relationship with your teenager, or start up your own business, or take a new college course so you get a promotion in work. Seek out someone that has been successful at what you are trying to achieve. Ask them was it always easy? Did you ever feel like giving up? Did everything go wonderful all the time? You will find out that it was not 'impossible', because they were a successful at it, but it was definitely not always easy.
You see, it is hard to motivate yourself to work toward the impossible. After all, impossible means you will NEVER get it done no matter what you do.
Hard, on the other hand simply means that some level of effort is required before you get what you want. You just have to want these things bad enough in order to tolerate the work that's required to get them.
How many 'impossible' things in YOUR life are really impossible and how many are simply hard?
Marcus Aurelius, Roman Emperor
Very often when you find something hard to achieve, you create a series of rationalizations, justifications and explanations that whatever it is that you are attempting is impossible.
Yet, when you think about it, you are only fooling yourself. No, worse than that, you are LYING to yourself! Marcus Aurelius was correct!
If it is humanly possible, if there is another human who can do it, then it is definitely possible for you too.
So it's not impossible... it's just hard.
What are you trying to achieve that looks impossible to you? Maybe you want to create a great relationship with your teenager, or start up your own business, or take a new college course so you get a promotion in work. Seek out someone that has been successful at what you are trying to achieve. Ask them was it always easy? Did you ever feel like giving up? Did everything go wonderful all the time? You will find out that it was not 'impossible', because they were a successful at it, but it was definitely not always easy.
You see, it is hard to motivate yourself to work toward the impossible. After all, impossible means you will NEVER get it done no matter what you do.
Hard, on the other hand simply means that some level of effort is required before you get what you want. You just have to want these things bad enough in order to tolerate the work that's required to get them.
How many 'impossible' things in YOUR life are really impossible and how many are simply hard?
Friday, 20 April 2007
Are You Listening?
We all have 2 ears and one mouth. What does that say about the importance of listening? If your spouse regularly says to you "I told you last week, do you not remember?," then maybe you need to brush up on your listening skills.
Here are a few suggestions to help you along the way.
1. Develop the desire to listen.
If you can show that you want to listen, the other person will be open to tell you anything because they are confident that you are interested in what they have to say. This alone should motivate you to want to be a good listener.
2. Do not interrupt.
There is always a temptation to interrupt and tell the other person what you think is vitally important to add to the conversation. Do not! Let them talk. Just listen!
3. Body language says it all.
Body language is so important in conversations. If you are not looking at the other person, you are biting you nails and watching TV, they are not going to open up to you because it is evident that you are not listening, you are distracted. Turn off the TV, face them, make eye contact and pay attention.
4. Learn active listening.
It is not enough that you are listening to someone, you want to be sure that they know you are listening and not day dreaming. Active listening is the art of communicating to the other person that you are hearing their every word. You can do this by nodding your head or verbally agreeing with what they are saying. Ask for clarification if needed.
5. Ask a question...then shut up!
This is a foolproof way to listen. Do not answer the question yourself or be thinking of the answer in your head, just listen!
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Here are a few suggestions to help you along the way.
1. Develop the desire to listen.
If you can show that you want to listen, the other person will be open to tell you anything because they are confident that you are interested in what they have to say. This alone should motivate you to want to be a good listener.
2. Do not interrupt.
There is always a temptation to interrupt and tell the other person what you think is vitally important to add to the conversation. Do not! Let them talk. Just listen!
3. Body language says it all.
Body language is so important in conversations. If you are not looking at the other person, you are biting you nails and watching TV, they are not going to open up to you because it is evident that you are not listening, you are distracted. Turn off the TV, face them, make eye contact and pay attention.
4. Learn active listening.
It is not enough that you are listening to someone, you want to be sure that they know you are listening and not day dreaming. Active listening is the art of communicating to the other person that you are hearing their every word. You can do this by nodding your head or verbally agreeing with what they are saying. Ask for clarification if needed.
5. Ask a question...then shut up!
This is a foolproof way to listen. Do not answer the question yourself or be thinking of the answer in your head, just listen!
Is there greatness on the inside of you but you don't know how to achieve it? Jason has just completed his brand new 7 part e-course, 'Find Your Greatness'
Get it free when you subscribe at: Find Your Greatness
Jason and Rebecca Osborn have dedicated themselves to changing thousands of lives by helping people find their greatness and true potential through their Find Your Greatness Newsletter.
Also log onto http://livingword.ie for more inspirational messages.
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